Walking down the aisle

Giving the bride awayWalking into church with Dad or another special person remains a traditional start to a wedding service for many, although the way it happens can vary.

Under normal circumstances, the bride can enter church in the way she feels most comfortable and relaxed and there are no legal requirements. She could walk down the aisle with one or two people – they could be her father or someone else like her brother or her son, another relative or a friend, or she can enter by herself. The person or persons who accompany her to the front would then move to their seats when the groom steps out and stands next to the bride.

Under Government guidelines to help control the spread of coronavirus, people who aren’t in your household or social bubble shouldn’t stand closer than 1m away, or touch you. This makes walking down the aisle with someone from outside your household very difficult, and in some churches, it simply wouldn’t be possible.

But vicars know what a special moment this is, and if the space in the church allows, the person accompanying the bride may be able to walk alongside her at a safe distance. This could be the case for churches with very wide aisles, or more than one aisle. The vicar may be able to suggest some ideas for using the outside space of the church in a creative way as an alternative to the indoor ‘aisle moment’. Talk to the vicar about what might be possible, being mindful of yours and your guests’ safety.

Involving parents

Just before the couple exchange vows, the contemporary wedding service includes some optional words that allow both sets of parents to affirm that they are happy that the two getting married are making a good decision:

“Do you the parents of x and x entrust them to one another as they come to be married?”

This form of wording allows parents to take part whatever the current complexities of relationships might be and also reflects the realities of a relationship built on equality, trust and choice. Parents stand wherever they are to say these words – which will work well under the current guidelines.

Traditional option of ‘giving away’

Centuries ago, daughters were thought of as their father’s property and giving her away at her marriage ceremony was a moment when ownership of her was transferred to the groom. The father would walk into church with his daughter and give her away at the altar.

Nowadays, the words used at the point of ‘giving away’ is simply a tradition and is entirely optional, but some brides like to hear the original words used at this point, which are:

“Who brings this woman to be married to this man?”

Under normal circumstances, the bride’s father (or mother, or another member of the family or a friend representing the family), would then give the bride’s right hand to the vicar who puts it into the bridegroom’s right hand.

Under the current circumstances of social distancing measures, this option is not currently possible.

Also in this section

Being an usher
Your children are welcome
Being a witness
Praying for the happy couple
Welcoming children
Doing a reading
Being a bridesmaid
What to expect as a guest
Being a ‘best man’